Let’s face it.
Being friendzoned sucks...
But what if you could stop it from happening to you ever again?
What do you think might change in your life if you could?
And to be clear, getting friendzoned doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.
It only means that your communication with women is off.
In today’s blog post I’ll tell you why it’s happening and how to get rid of it for good.
I’ll first break them down into mistakes guys make that gets them friendzoned and then provide solutions to these mistakes.
Let’s start with the first one.
Mistake #1: Treating Her Like A “Bro” Friend
Because you are reading this blog post, I’m going to assume you don’t yet understand what attracts women.
So for this reason only, it’s understandable that you have treated women as you would normally treat your bro friends all this time.
And there’s nothing wrong with that… unless you want women to feel sexually attracted to you and see you more than just a friend.
See, the problem with treating girls as “bro” friends is that they will never feel threatened by your approach in moving things forward.
And she’ll start to associate anything that you do as “friendly” or “harmless.”
To put this into perspective, just imagine anyone in your family giving you hugs or kisses. I can almost guarantee you’ll never assume that they want to date you.
Therefore, it’s obvious that treating girls like “bros” puts you into that friendly and harmless category.
Avoid this frame at all costs.
Mistake #2: Your Intentions Are Not Clear Enough
This mistake usually happens when you have a hard time communicating with people in general.
What I mean by this is…
If you are a great communicator, it doesn’t take much for people to understand what you are looking for.
An example would be going up to the cash register with money in your hands. Your communication there says “I want to buy something.”
And communicating with women requires the same thing. Perhaps it’s not as obvious as the cash register example but that’s the big picture.
To do this, we need to immediately let her know that we could be a potential partner for her and not just a friend.
The best way to do this is by not treating her as a “bro” friend from the start and instead flirt with her from the minute you first meet.
If you lack experience in flirting or have no idea what flirting is, it could come off as creepy but it’s way better than her categorizing you as a friend.
Later when you learn how to flirt with women, you can always go back to her and pick up where you left off.
Mistakes #3: Never Going For The Kiss
This perhaps is the most painful mistake out of all…
Because if you played your cards right and she does see you as a potential lover - it can become frustrating for her when you don’t pull the trigger.
You are probably wondering why?
Well, think about it.
The fact that she’s giving you attention, spending time with you, and doing fun things together - and you never make a move or push anything forward...
Well, it can get boring and stagnant for her.
Almost as if you were afraid… I understand that this could be the case… but why play it safe when you can win big?
And waiting for the perfect moment is silly.
Doesn’t matter how long you think you need before you are “ready,” don’t be surprised when she’s found another guy who had the balls to face his fears.
This is a hard pill to swallow but it’s the truth.
Getting a girl interested in you is one thing but having the courage to go for the kiss despite getting rejected is another.
So in this type of situation, you want to go for it because she’s only going to be attracted even more when you do.
That’s right, It’s better to fail than playing it safe.
So, there you have it.
These are some awful mistakes that you should avoid if you want to stay away from the friendzone.
And if for some reason you find yourself still falling into it… re-read this blog post again and see if you can spot which mistake you are making.
Sometimes even writing down your patterns of why you get friendzone helps wonders,
Another thing is to have another fresh pair of eyes to see what you are doing wrong. This could be a friend, counselor, or even a mentor.
Ideally, you want to seek out someone who has once been in your shoes before and can warn you about every possible scenario you may have in meeting women.
If you like today’s blog post, feel free to shoot me a message at kevin@kevinsalinas.com for more tips, advice, and support meeting, dating, and attracting beautiful women.
